Realities of My Life

DANGERS OF AN ENTITLEMENT MINDSET Have you ever lost something of great value because of something else that probably matters less? Simi Odunmi, popularly called Boss Lady is a branch manager at Vetcom Solutions, a cooperation she joined barely a year ago. From childhood, Simi had always gotten whatever she wanted, in any way possible; so, scaling to the top of the ladder in such a short time was not surprising to folks who knew Simi. Simi is the perfect definition of bossy and whenever she wanted something, she went for it and got it. Although, this attitude is the major reason behind her success, but you know what they say 'Absolute power corrupts absolutely'. Simi did not notice that her attitude was damaging to her personality. This made it difficult for people to stay around, and as such she did not have any friends. Simi was the head of a branch with a 9 man team. She paid little or no attention to the needs and suggestions of her team, since she felt that s...

I am seated on my bed, wide awake in the middle of the night. I am not working, neither am I watching a late night movie. I did not take coffee either, I am just awake - thinking about Relationships! Relationships!! Relationships!!! At times, I wonder why people assume that everyone in their life is replaceable. Thus, they tend to push away the ones who care about them. Sadly, they lose them (the ones who care), before they (the ones who push away), realize what they have done. A lot has happened in such a short while. I was asleep, but his call woke me up. He called to tell me that he misses me. Scoffs , so he does? Okay, I guess you are confused, so I'll start from the very beginning. I met him during the second semester of my second year in the university. At that time, I was not cut in for any relationship. But there was something  about Teddy, I still find it hard to figure out.  He was humorous, cute and had a lovely smile that could melt even the coldest ...

SELF-CHECK Last week, we looked into the part one ( I should have it ) of this October series titled “The entitlement Mindset”. Today, our discussion will be based on signs and indications of an entitlement mentality. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: At some point, you may have said or heard people say “I did not expect this or that”. One attribute exhibited as a result of the entitlement mindset is placing high expectations on people’s helping hand and feeling cheated when the expectations are cut short. You may then ask, is it wrong to place expectations on others? Answer is no, however, your attitude towards expectations ought not to be a type with a sense of entitlement. INGRATITUDE: When you fail to acknowledge the efforts and sacrifices made by others for your sake, then chances are that you have an entitled mindset. This is because you obviously believe that the efforts people put to do things for you is your right, hence there is no need to commend them for it. STAND IN F...

In the Spirit of the international girl child celebration, our icon for today and the first icon we will be showcasing on Practicalive is a young lady, who was able to make a good name for herself despite life's troubles - MAUD CHIFAMBA Maud Chifamba was born on the 19th of November  1997, into a poor family in the Hunters resettlement community in Chegutu, central Zimbabwe in the Southern part of Africa. In 2002 when she was 5 years old, Maud lost her dad. Maud's mother was plagued with Cancer and as such could not cater for her and her younger brother. The circumstances warranted Maud to stay with her step-brother, there she started her primary education. In grade 3, she was mistakenly given the question paper for grade 4, yet she scored 100%. In grade, she asked to be given the questions of grade 5, of which she has had the highest. She demonstrated a rare level of intelligence all through her primary school, and finished with flying colours; but, there was no money fo...

I was sitting at home one afternoon when my friend, Steph, paid me an unexpected visit. Sitting on my couch, we discussed what has been happening in our lives and more precisely about her recent activities. The following conversation ensued between us: STEPH:  Babe, there is this guy that has been  chyking  your friend  ooo ME:   surprised , that na normal thing na , what is so special about this one? STEPH:   chuckles like a 3-month-old baby whose cheek is being caressed,  nothing  sha ME:  I know there is something...Wait a minute!! don't tell me you are beginning to  love up STEPH:   looking shy,   something like that... ME : What about Temi? STEPH  : Temi is fine and no, we are not having any issues,  she replied even before I popped the question. Temi is her boyfriend since 14 months ago, though they were friends for about 5 years before they started dating. Temi is the kind of guy best de...

DAMN! "I SHOULD HAVE IT" I want to take you through memory lane, to bring to your remembrance those habits you exhibited as a kid, but probably did not take to heart. Months ago, my little cousins visited me. They decided to spend a few days with my immediate family since they were on holiday. During their stay, I observed an attitude exhibited by the youngest among the three of them which incited my concern. Steph had the habit of always requesting for her share of whatever was given to her older siblings. She would always stretch out her hands and say "give me my own," and she would cry out loud and throw tantrums if she was not given. Do you remember those times when you used to say " give me my own ?” Do you know that it is this habit that has grown to become the "I am supposed to have it" personality trait? This trait is characterized by the entitlement mindset. According to Conservapedia, an entitlement mentality is a state of mind ...