ENTITLEMENT MINDSET (Part 2)

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SELF-CHECK

Last week, we looked into the part one (I should have it) of this October series titled “The entitlement Mindset”. Today, our discussion will be based on signs and indications of an entitlement mentality.


UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: At some point, you may have said or heard people say “I did not expect this or that”. One attribute exhibited as a result of the entitlement mindset is placing high expectations on people’s helping hand and feeling cheated when the expectations are cut short. You may then ask, is it wrong to place expectations on others? Answer is no, however, your attitude towards expectations ought not to be a type with a sense of entitlement.

INGRATITUDE: When you fail to acknowledge the efforts and sacrifices made by others for your sake, then chances are that you have an entitled mindset. This is because you obviously believe that the efforts people put to do things for you is your right, hence there is no need to commend them for it.

STAND IN FOR ME: Always wanting others to do things for you is another pointer that you have an entitlement mindset. Getting into a mess and refusing to take responsibility, instead expecting others to sort it out for you is an indication that you are among the league of those with the entitlement mentality.

BLAME GAME: There are many people who are quick to blame the government, family, society, just everyone and everything but never themselves.  Censuring others for your pains and personal problems is a function of an entitled mentality. A person who has an entitlement sense will spill the coffee and yet fault it on the weather for being too cold and causing his hand to shake.

BOASTING: A person with an entitlement mindset is a boaster. When you brag about your accomplishments to the extent of looking down on others, then you probably have an entitlement sense. You fail to realize that your natural intelligence or being born into a wealthy home is a privilege and not an entitlement.

UNCOMPROMISING: The mindset of entitlement stirs up an obdurate attitude. If you refuse to make efforts to understand other people’s needs, perceptions and reasons for their actions, yet desires to be understood and to always be allowed to air your views, then your mindset is that of entitlement.

PRACTICE DOUBLE STANDARD: A person who exhibits double standards often times complains about people breaking rules, yet they are usually the regular culprits. If you always want to be exempted from the set rules then you likely have an entitlement mentality. Furthermore, if you punish/criticize others for breaking the same rule you do not wish to follow, then you definitely have an entitlement sense.

MORAL LICENSING: Moral licensing also referred to as self-justification is another trait associated with an entitlement mindset. Have you ever done something that you know is wrong, but still find yourself telling yourself that what you did was right? If you have the habit of trying to internally validate the reasons for your wrong actions, then you need to examine yourself.

TANTRUMS AND REVENGE: How do you react when you are denied something you desire? Do you accept the rejection and strive to be better next time? Someone with an entitlement mentality will not do that! He will shout and whine about being cheated.  If you always complain and seek vengeance whenever you are given a negative response, then you should check yourself.


What You should do:


👉 Sincerely and carefully examine your actions - both conscious and subconscious.

👉 Discuss the subject with trusted pals and get to know what they think about your attitude as regards the signs.

👉 Do you have an entitlement mindset? (Personal Question)

👉 Follow up this series till the end.

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